Terrance gives me $20 this morning and told me to get some groceries.
In my head Im thinking that I would not be able to get anything with $20. I sit back and I just continue filling out my job application to Sephora. This is not the first time I had to go grocery shopping with $20. In fact, I remember when my mother use to give me that same amount of money to go get some food that can last for two days and feed seven people. Of course back then I was a little more consious of spending cause it wasn’t my money and if I had spent more than what was said, I was in for a hard talking to.
So why is it so difficult to shop with $20 now?
Well, lest not forget the fact that I am in a whole different state and even when I was living in New York, grocery shopping there was totally impossible with even $100. I have also lost my damn mind when it comes to spending money, so Terrance has to step in time to time to limit my spending habits. But I wanted today to be different.
So, my goal was to spend $15 of the money that he had given me for groceries and also get enough food that could last for at least a week; because I don’t get paid until Friday. My conclusion, Sandwiches, BAM! It sucks because we won’t necessarily have breakfast or dinner food but hey sandwiches are ok.
Now I though I was going to spend the whole $15 on just sandwiches I actually spent like a little under $11 for that stuff. Unfortunately, I had a big problem with choosing which cheese I wanted to purchase that had a good quality case with the biggest savings point. We usually get the Kraft American Cheese slices, however, that was going for $4.49 and that was just too much for one pack of cheese. They did have a 2 for $5 deal but that would be too much cheese for just one week. I look on the left and I see a church by another company that was $2.75 and Velveta cheese slices for $3.99. I wanted to get the cheaper one but I had never heard of the company before and was afraid that it would be one of those plastic cheeses that take 20 minutes to melt in the microwave. The other cheese, Velveta looked good and I know them because of their awesome and cheesy macaroni & cheese. But it was $3.99. I ended up getting the cheaper cheese and honestly, I would have to wait to see what Terrance would think of it. He is really picky when it comes to cheese and everything else. But I have a feeling that the cheese would be ok.
I because I was under the $15 threshold I decided to get some noodles that was on a cool sale. It was 4 for $.99 and I was not going to turn that down. Because I was still under budget I treated my self with some candy.
I ended up spending $16.82. Yes the candy took me over budget but it went much.
Let’s be honest, its kinda hard to have a bad day when someone gives you a cupcake. Theres something about sweets that make you feel happy and like the world is okay for now. I think that is one of the reasons why I’m so damn addicted to sweets.
I didn’t have anything to do today so I ended up going to The Grove to do some window shopping. I had one thing in mind that I did want to buy from Sephora and I actually did. Now let me say, I was not having a bad day but I was a little down because I didnt have anything to do but lay in the bed until Terrance got off of work.
While I was at The Grove, my friend Kevin texted me asking me if I was in the area. He works at Sprinkles and I love it when he’s working and I’m there at the same time because that means I get free Sprinkles.
He told me to stop by to pick up some goodies and I rushed there with Terrance. When I got there, There was this new cupcake that I had not seen before. It was a season cupcake and OH GOD, it looked like heaven. It was a lemon maurine pie cup cake. I asked him If I could get that one and he looked at me as if it was not good. I didn’t care. it looked to good to not try.
As we walked off with the box of sprinkles, we thanked him as if he had given us the keys to a brand new Tesla. We went towards the farmer’s market area and took a seat and there I went, face in to the beautiful sprinkle cupcake.
It was by far a new taste like no other.
There was also some writing on the box that I had noticed before we opened it up.
I thought it was so sweet for Kevin to write us that note. Kevin is a really nice and friendly person and I am so glad that we are his friends. So yeah, Thats my story about some awesome cupcakes.
Have you had Sprinkle’s cupcakes before? Which one is your favorite?
My stay in New York was very short lived. The fact that it was cold, like really cold, played the most part in why it did not work for Terrance and I to stay there. I was already set when we first moved to NY. I was interning at one of the most legendary recording studios on the east side, and I had a part time job to pay the bills. However, Terrance wasn’t that happy with New York.
We knew we were moving to New York a couple months before, but we were still unsure if we were still going to move there. I had been working at this glorified Whole Foods and 7- Eleven mashup store for a couple of months and I had been really enjoying working there. But because I had lived in Atlanta for my whole life. It was time for something new. It was time to explore.
I ended getting a call from the studio saying that they wanted to hire me and wanted me to start the following month. I was beyond excited and I put in my two weeks notice the same day. Both Terrance and I was happy for the big move. Not so our family though. My mom took it kinda light but it was a different story for Terrance’s.
Fitting an Entire life in four luggage Bags
As you can imagine, we had to throw away so much stuff. And the things that we could not take with us, we had our family hold them and we would pick them up when we came back to visit another time. Terrance had the most to throw away. He had thousands of dollars worth of hair and products that he absolutely had trouble with getting rid of. He threw away a lot of stuff and was able to fit all he had in two suitcases. I just needed my laptop and my books. I wasn’t able to bring my violin with me but it wasn’t that much of a big deal considering the fact I barely touched it since high school.
The night before our flight, we stayed over our friend Tiffany’s house. She stays in the country of Atlanta called Fayettville. When I tell you we hate the country, we are not exaggerating. We stayed there for Terrance to say his final goodbye to Tiffany. That night I could not sleep. We woke up at like 5 in the morning to get ready for our 8 o’clock flight. As she was dropping us off at the airport she began to cry. She couldn’t believe that we were actually leaving. I was too sleepy for emotions so I was just like “BYE!”
This had been my first time on a plane and it was so scary for me to fathom. But I was not as scared as I though I would be. The flight was actually nice. There was a couple bumps on the way but not anything too scary. However, I hated the fact that my ears kept on popping. That annoyed me so much.
Arriving in New York
As the plane started to fly over New York, I thought “EW.” The sky was so gray and the buildings looked so old and tattered. It was not like what it looked like in all the movies. But I thought to myself, people did say it was a dirty place. When we landed, it was so cold. And it was super humid. Our first transaction was with the MTA machine and it was not a forgiving one. Were were trying to pay for a monthly pass so we wouldn’t waste our money in one day. Unfortuanelty, the machine did not take bills nor cards. Only coins. I was frustrated as we stood around for an hour trying to figure out what we were going to do. Fast forward, we were able to get on the bus to the nearest subway entrance.
As we were riding the bus, we were not impressed with what we were seeing. Nothing but old and abandon buildings.
We made it to the subway and we were told to take the 1. We got on the train and we realized we were on the wrong train. We needed to be on the 1 going Downtown. At the time it was the most confusing thing that could have ever been created. We finally made it to our room where we met with the landlord.
She broke down the rules for us quite clear and simple. She said, ” No drinking, smoking and running in and out after 11. You can not use the kitchen and you share a bathroom. Everyone must clean up after themselves and spray air fresher as well. By the way, rent is 300 a week due on Monday.” Then she closed the door.
It was too much for us to take in. We were not in love with NY and we didnt have a kitchen to cook out of. So you know what we did? We both laid on the bed and cried. We asked each other if we had made a bad decision.
We told each other we did not make a bad decision. We would work everything out.
First Day on the Job
The next day was work day for the both of us. We had no time to play around. Terrance transferred to a Sally’s in Brooklyn and I was at Quad Studios on Monday Wednesday and Fridays and every other day was working at a coffee shop on the Upper West Side. I liked working with Quad Studios. It was really chill and laid back. I was able to work with a lot of artist including Mac Miller, Arianna Grande, Beyonce, Nicki Minaj, Drake, Migos, Dave East, and many more. My biggest moment was assisting for Corrieanne Bailey for a song she did for the Fifty Shades Darker Soundtrack. My coffee job was boring as hell and I counted the minutes. I knew that that job was not going to last. Much like the rest of my jobs.
Terrance was a trooper. The travel time for him to get to work in Brooklyn was a little under two hours. We had learned that commuting on the subway was a regular thing to do as a New Yorker. But Terrance hated it and so did I. For that reason, We created a hate for Brooklyn. We wanted nothing to do with brooklyn on our off days.
Fun & Leisure
We were really sucky New Yorkers because we didn’t go see all the tourist attractions. We thought that we would wait and take our time because after all, we were staying here. We went to the Museum of Modern Art which was a really cool Mueseum. They had a lot of weird exhibits but it was awesome. We also went through the Skyline. It was really beautiful. We also did a little shopping in Chelsea and Soho. Because my studio was in the heart of Time Square, I was in Time Square a lot and I loved it there the most. When you forget about the Tourists.
Dunken Donuts & Street Food
Somebody kill me for how many calories I consumed when I was in New York. I had Dunken Donuts every morning because I was always on the go and needed something quick. My usual was a Chai Tea Latte and a pink sprinkle donut. I ate almost three slices of $1 pizza every day because they were so cheap and so convenient. They were like on every block. And don’t even get me started on the Halel Food. This was heaven to me. The Halel Guys were Gods. I had never heard of such a thing. Chiken over rice and the white sauce? Oh GOD!!! I know for a fact that NY is to blame for my current weight size now.
Although New York had began to grow on me, it wasn’t the same for Terrance and I could see it in his emotions through out the days. Things were getting better and we were on our feet but I too did not have a strong bond with NY. We eventually came to a mutual agreement that New York was not going to be the place that we would set up shop and spend the rest of our lives.
Terrance saw that I still kinda wanted to stay in New York and he was willing to stay for two years. I however, did not want to stay for us to move later. I was ready to be some where permanent and build. I asked him why don’t we move tomorrow. He was shocked at my decision. He though that I was playing but then he realized how serious I was. At the time we had used all of our money in New York and would have to wait for the next paycheck in order to put money down for a room somewhere else.
So right then and there we decided to just go ahead and book a flight to Los Angeles, California for the next day. It was quite ambitious but we are here now in LA and we do not regret it at all.
So, New York, is it a Yay or Nay?
New York is a mixture of Yay and Nay. Like one of my co workers told me at Quad Studios, NY is like a love hate relationship. You hate it somedays, and you love it like no other on the other days. I decided that I would want to only love NY. I love the city and all of its “unique” beauty. However, NY is a place I could be at small amounts of time. California is my home now and I look forward to building a future here with Terrance.
I cam across this video while scrolling through the trending section on youtube and it was the best use of three minutes and thirty-two seconds. If you don’t already know, Im still new to the make up world and any hack is like gold to me. But the things that I took away from this video was all of the skin care things. The Freeman Cucumber Facial Peel-Off Mask is something new to me and is definitely something I will be getting very soon to try out. Also the vitamin D drops to is something that I plan on adding to my daily skin care routine.
And lets just talk about how wonderful Joan looks! She has vitiligo and instead of hiding her imperfections, she complements them and make them hers while taking off years of aging on her face with her glorious skin care tips. Keep a watch out for some reviews on some of the products that she is using in this video!
I had a friend in elementary school who always looked fabulous. He always had the newest and trendiest things and I was secretly jealous of him. I was born into a family that did not have much but enough to live. Everyday I would go home and ask my mom or my grandmother for things that I thought that if I had it would make me look cool. How foolish of me then. The older I became, the more I began to realize that my family was broke and we only had enough for the necessities. The wants were not important, and I slowly began to understand why and I began to stop asking for expensive things. However, when Christmas came around, I had a feeling that I would be able to get at least one of the big things that I had wanted all year round. By the age of 7, I knew Santa Clause was not real. I figured that out because I asked for a very expensive piano and I did not get it. I was under the impression that if you were good all year long, then Santa would give you anything that you wanted. Actually, if you work hard all year long, and you save your money, then you are able to get what you want.
When I got into my teen years, I started seeking out a job in order for me to be able to get the things that I wanted. I started searching for jobs when I was 16 and didnt find a job until I was 19. Why did it take so long? That’s a whole other topic about my work ethic that I would have to talk about separately. My first job was at a cleaners in Jonesboro, GA. It was a very easy job in my opinion. I was getting paid under minimum wage and under the table for four hours five days a week.
I was a senior in High School at the time and while I was working, I started to realize that I had made a mistake. Why? Well, Events and club meetings were all after school, and I had to work an hour after I left school. So, as you can see, I had a problem. I had to choose over participating with my friends and having fun my senior year of high school, or work to get the money that I needed in order to pay for senior dues and college application and fees.
Like my mother, I chose to sacrifice fun in order to support myself. I think my first job fundamentally screwed me up and I think so because, I missed out on everything that everyone ever talked about being a senior in high school. I got to experience some things, but not all. I was so tired from work that the last thing I wanted to do was my homework, so my grades suffer tremendously.
Honestly, If it wasn’t for my senior math teacher, which I thought she hated me and probably do, I would have had a second senior year.
Fast forward to today.
I am a college graduate who is in a huge transitional period. Im not too hard on myself because Im only 22. But there are so many other people my age that are way better off then I am and no exactly where they are heading. Congrats to them but everyone is not like that and I had to learn that the hard way.
Your probably asking me, what does this have to do with the title of this post? Well Im getting there!
I believe that wealth is a level of comfortability. The way of life that all people would want to live. But there are so many different levels of wealth and money is not included in all of them. You can be living close to the poverty level like my family and still find the wealth that you desire. For my family, our wealth was God and the ability that were were able to pay our bills and keep a roof over our heads. At the time that was good enough for me. But now my personal goal of wealth has changed.
I want to live a way of life where my accomplishments gets me where I want to be. That with my hard work and dedication, I am able to afford the things in life that I have always wanted.
Im tired of working just to be able to afford to pay my bills. A prison of living paycheck to paycheck. I want financial security and financial stability. I want to make a difference in the world and I also want to help out when I can to those who are in need.
Some people think that I have become a material person and sometimes I have to ask myself the same question. But when I ask myself, I remember that is not the material things that I want, its the comfort of living that I receive with such things. My heart and my character will always be the same. I will always stay grounded to who I am and that is a gentle and kind spirited soul who cares for and love everyone regardless.
I am creating this blog for you to follow my journey to create a life for me that I know that I deserve. I want this blog to serve as an inspiration to all of those out there who aspire to be a better person financially and spiritually.Wealth is a way of life and you must find out how you get to there. The road is not easy but, anything is possible when you put your mind to it.
Blurring the gender lines and painting a new picture!